Forever?

HAT to do about this issue...

My mom purchased a spot in a mausoleum at Forest Lawn Memorial Park in our county.  I never did like the idea but she bought it and paid for it...at the time she purchased it she bought a pig in a poke.  This means sight unseen.  The cemetery already had one mausoleum and it was full or people had already purchased those spots so in my mom's contract it stated if she passed prior to the new one being built she would be buried and then DUG Up and put in the new one when it was built...I did not like this one bit but she agreed. Cemetery sales people are one notch below used car salesman in my book. 



Long story short the new building was built and so my mom got a space in it.  I do not like this building it's a piece of crap! It's supposed to last forever? A burial is supposed to be forever correct? Well this thing is already suffering structural damage and it's only a few years old.  One front fell off and it's been down over a year...others are cracked, some front's are misaligned, and there is obvious water damage from poor roof draining. 


Missing front fell to the ground a year ago

On the 15th of July I went in to complain about this problem to the lady inside.  At first she gave me this song and dance, and I told her "let me be completely frank and say I don't want to hear any excuses because there are none, this is a Perpetual Care Cemetery...that means YOU keep it UP..I have a written contract stating so! MY question to you is, WHEN Is this going to be corrected?"


this cracked one is directly above my mom's spot

So she called a new owner who is in the process of taking over the cemetery...and that owner said "it will be 3 weeks before she can come down (no idea from where) to access the damage." So I said I'll be back in touch in 3 weeks and if nothing is done I will go over her head to what ever authority necessary to get this taken care of." Even if that is a state senator, or state representative, or the sheriff, or whatever but I will start at the SCDLL (SC department of labor, Licensing and Regulation)


drainage issue damage

Meanwhile I put the 3 week date on my calendar and then I got sick and etc...now it's been 5 weeks.  SO today I rode out to see if anything had changed it had not...I  did not go inside to speak to the manager or whomever that lady is, because Im trying to avoid face to face contact for a while longer so I wrote her an email...Meanwhile I have contacted the Licensing Board and inquired on how to report a complaint about a cemetery...and I am prepared to do just that.  I told her I want a response in writing...
Building A is the old one, check out this problem...


the unseen side is damaged and in bad shape the end posts are WOOD 

Honestly I would prefer my mom be removed from this building! The fronts are not made of granite or marble, its some type of cement...the woman tired to say it's all steel and concrete, I said "it is not I have a photo showing there is WOOD in there along with flimsy metal and some so called concrete, and it's cheap wood at that!! 


cheap chipboard inside the crypt space

So another battle...anyways I would like to have her removed from that and an above ground mausoleum built for her...there are two at this place, so I know they allow it, and I'd even prefer a spot in the ground because once My sisters and I are gone, who is going to make sure this building continues to stand for all time???? 

It's rubbish...and so now I open up another battle on my warpath of life...



This does not seem like Friday to me...all the days run together anymore and it seems like many colors of crayon melting into a brown blob...mentally I don't know what it will take to get myself back on path...I did go take a short walk today after visiting mom, but it didn't feel right something is off way off...
Since the loss of my X, my Mom and Casey grief has overtaken most of my feelings, I can't tell you how I feel inside like a hollow shell.   I can't describe to you how it is to feel that you are just not who you were because these precious beings are no longer part of your reality...it's no longer me!!

Where am I?